mutual care | locating needs

Grateful for the collective imagination and wisdom of Sangha!

Last Sunday, our contemplation on Mutual Care inspired new queries to support us in identifying our current needs along with practices for honoring those needs.

How do we assess when our needs are being met — by asking what fuels, inspires and restores our body, heart, mind and spirit?

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woman horizontal | done + been done

done and been done
still they appear in dreams
unsummoned

cords cut
but roots regrow

when memory whispers my name
new work to be done and done again

unhook and untether
call back my energy
reclaim my soul

i am not yours
to harbor in distorted reverie

no longer known to you
no longer held by you
no longer the light
by which you warm hands and heart
or take shelter from your own shadow

in my place, i seed
grace, gratitude
and the tenderness of mercy

then raze the tomb where you encased me
and seal the crack you slipped into.

15 sept 2017

woman horizontal | bless it all

the blessing of breath + loving awareness has centered + restored me in body, heart + mind.

the blessing of acknowledgement + appreciation for all parts of my journey — shadow + sunshine — has enabled me to celebrate both my progress + the possibilities for continued evolution.

the blessing of honoring the lessons, opportunities + encounters, be it with the admirable or the adversarial, has strengthened my capacity to filter out poignant information + insights from any energy that doesn’t serve me. 

i bless it all. leaving no part neglected. gleaning the magic within the mundane.


on spiritual accounting, resistance + boundaries

​I usually tune out during commercials, but when I heard Iyanla drop this gem in a teaser for her new season of Fix My Life, I woke the hell up!

I know what resistance looks, sounds, and feels like (thank the goddess I’ve learned to own mine). And, as an empath, I’ve been admittedly agitated by recent encounters with folks harboring energies of delusion, denial, dissatisfaction and the inability to practice accountability about things that are within their sphere of influence. all of these qualities are manifestations of our resistance to spiritual growth.

If we are truly willing to do the work, then we can develop, expand and strengthen our capacity to change our perceptions — even though we may not have the power to (immediately) change our conditions or circumstances.

Spiritual accounting calls for an honest and loving look inward to:

  • discern the unresolved areas that are causing disparities between our thoughts, words, and deeds.
  • see our habit energies and patterns of behavior that keep us stuck in grooves that cause suffering.
  • tend to our wounds and move toward wholeness and healing.

I’m blessed with a circle of beloveds who hold each other down, lift each other up, and trust each other to lovingly say, “Hey, sis, your shadow is showing!

What we won’t do is co-sign one another’s craziness!

It’s okay to not be ready, to have doubts ans fears. Where I’ve learned to draw firm boundaries is with those who wear the armor of unwillingness and who are committed to their stuckness. With them, I call on the tough-love wisdom I grew up hearing: “I can’t want [your wellness/healing/wholeness] more for you than you want it for yourself.”

Uninitiated healers often spend way too much time trying to minister to wounds that aren’t theirs to heal and guide those who aren’t theirs to teach. On this, I speak from hard-won experience.

So I’ll conserve my energy, guard my intuitive spirit, filter out the lesson from the agitation, and step waaay the hell back before the connection becomes toxic.